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Making my own way

This week’s letter is a page out of my journal. I know, many of you think that this is my journal and it used to be, but I do write some things for myself these days. However, when I finished writing this one, it felt too much like a post/letter to share, and here it is. Plus, yes, I wrote this in bed between working with my yarn spool above that looks like a tomato and my comfort plushies. It’s been that kind of week, and I don’t mind sharing that with y’all. Yes, even y’all LinkedIn people. It’s Sunday, one and two, I’m a Black queer feminine person. Rest is resistance for me y’all. Here’s that entry, lightly edited.


For over a decade, I thought that if I just moved to the right place, with the perfect urban form, the perfect people would pop out and with the right urban form, everything would be ok.

However, over the past decade, I realized that my methods of making place for myself were not yielding and they were unrooted and unfriendly to advocacy.

Humans evolved into nomadic, then stationary people. Even when we were nomadic, but especially as stationary people, we became territorial, stagnant, and antagonistic. We began to embrace scarcity over abundance.

Now this isn’t to say we shouldn’t continue to ground ourselves, grounding is a key part of our connection with the Earth. 

But we lack balance in how we care for the Earth and that balance is reflected in how we care for others.

First and foremost, we should be practicing conservation, but not without compassion. 

Here’s some tangible examples of how we do that:

— Take our solutions to the root, rather than blame people for doing what they have to do in the moment to survive.

— Release our need to worship and honor defense, warmongering, and unrenewable resources.

— Ask ourselves what views and manifestations of the divine presence do we really serve and are those accurate manifestations or ones geared to a particular, singular goal of just one chosen people? 

I myself am releasing my own thoughts and beliefs about buildings first. 

I believe that we can regenerate buildings, but we can’t regenerate living creatures and beings. 

I believe our urbanist movement has failed because it failed to unpack why certain things were built where they were before considering how to fix those things under the current colonial economics.

It allowed not just racism (begat by capitalism) to stand, but also ableism and classism, and patriarchy.

The industry’s equity has failed us. Equity is no longer the standard, we need land liberation, restoration, and regeneration.

Our existing built environment organizations need to not just ensure their day-to-day activities and operations are mindful of ableism and classism, they need to root it out. Then problems like racism and transphobia and misogyny go away because at our core, we don’t use them as reasons to not build or honor what has been built, but in a different way.

Our overemphasis on policing and the limits of budgets is failing us. Our failure to nurture and teach building and development skills, then nurture the nature connections of communities, and their needs besides what a building looks like is causing a shift in my desire to promote and honor organizations that I used to worship as the gold standard.

I’m in defiance and I’m in search of a solution. I am creative and abundant. I am nomadic and grounded. 

Lastly, I realize that as an avid reader, I never had a lot of books that showed people like me in my home state thriving in communities. I was constantly reinforcing that something was wrong with my community because it only existed in my imagination.

And, as a child of an authoritarian religion that claimed the Earth would regenerate after some of us died and went to heaven and others went to hell, unpacking that level of trauma has also been a major goal and release of my past few years and I need real, reliable, affirming community to do so.

This is why I’m intent on defying gentrification and ending imperialism. 


This week on the podcast, I Zoomed with Christine Edwards and we talked about how we’ve been resourceful, with mentorship, and her work in helping Asheville with its groundbreaking reparations program. I’ve included the video version here on YouTube and I would love for you to subscribe over there, especially if you want to see these full video versions of the podcast.

And of course, please continue to listen on all other podcast platforms and rate and review there as well. Here’s all of the episodes at a glance.

Making Plenty Good Room with Rev. Dr. Andrew Wilkes Defying Gentrification

These are times that call on a radical belief in oneself and their community. Back in October just shortly before the US Election, I interviewed Rev. Dr. Andrew Wilkes about his book Plenty Good Room, which invites the Black Church to think beyond electon cycles and go to the root of how it can be a radical force in not just American politics, but the wellbeing of all of us as Earthlings.Yeah, timely. Unfortunately, because of the recent US Election and regime change, it took me a minute to prepare this episode for you, but it’s here now and ready. Plus, my beloved partner Les Henderson joins me for a moment of reflection on faith and will be joining me in our next few episodes.Here’s Rev. Dr. Wilkes’s bioReverend Andrew Wilkes, Ph.D., is a pastor, political scientist, writer, and contemplative. He is the co-lead, co-founding pastor of the Double Love Experience Church in Brooklyn, New York, and the former Executive Director of the Drum Major Institute, a social change organization founded by Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Dr. Wilkes is a 2022 inductee into the Martin Luther King Board of Preachers at Morehouse College and a proud alum of Hampton University, Princeton Theological Seminary, CUNY Graduate Center, and the Coro Public Affairs Fellowship. He is the author of Freedom Notes: Reflections on Faith, Justice, and the Possibility of Democracy; co-author of Psalms for Black Lives; and author of Plenty Good Room: Co-Creating an Economy of Enough for All. His writing and voice have been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, Essence Magazine, Stanford Social Innovation Review, and Dr. Henry Louis Gates' PBS Gospel series. Dr. Wilkes is the elated husband of Rev. Dr. Gabby Cudjoe-Wilkes and lives in Brooklyn, New York.Watch PBS's The Black Church Herehttps://www.pbs.org/show/black-church/Read my recent newsletter spelling out the seven principles of Defying Gentrification (since  i forgot to put them in the episodehttps://theblackurbanist.com/this-is-my-house-and-in-it-i-get-to-defy-gentrification-my-way-all-day-every-day/Purchase from Kristen's Bookshop.org store and support the podcast! And merch and crafting classes via www.kristpattern.comNever miss an episode, subscribe to our Substack , LinkedIn, WordPress, or PattreonYou can also find Kristen @blackurbanist or @kristpattern.
  1. Making Plenty Good Room with Rev. Dr. Andrew Wilkes
  2. The Grief that Gentrification Brings
  3. Past and Present Black Migrations for Liberation with Arionne Nettles
  4. Resourcefulness and Reparations in North Carolina with Christine Edwards
  5. Kristen's Personal Gentrification Defying Playbook


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